Secure Daughters Confident Sons by Glenn T. Stanton, I was thrilled. And honestly, when I first started reading the book, I was greatly encouraged. I really enjoyed his take on what it takes to make a good man and a good woman. He says that it is our job as parents to take a little boy or girl and help them become men & women. I appreciated his take on gender differences, because so many people in the world have negated the inherent differences are found in being male or female.
I really did take to heart many of his appeals to parents in this process of taking a young boy/girl and see them become man/woman. For instance, in talking about boys, he says "Be sure not to praise him only for what matters to you, but look for and appreciate what matters to him, even if it's far afield from your interests" (64). I take that to heart. There are some things my boys are interested in that I have no desire, but I want to encourage them to be them and not me.
But here's the deal. The further I read in this book, the less I appreciated it. There is really only one reason why. The further into the book you get the less Stanton connects his points to the Scriptures. I did not count them, but I would be willing to bet there were more references to movies and current culture than there is to the Holy Bible given from and infinitely knowledgeable God. It is more about the psychology of the male and female than the God-given instruction to them.
Let me illustrate it by one example. In chapter 4, "What a Girl Needs Most", Stanton takes time to write that a girl needs to be taught modesty. Amen! I agree. Yet his illustrations in this section are National Geographic, a book he has read, & the movie Jerry Maguire. When given a chance to teach about the importance of modesty, there is no mention of First Timothy 2 or First Peter 3. What an opportunity missed to allow God to speak on this subject and not just modern culture. And this is just one illustration among many.
Take it for what it is, a psychological approach to masculinity and femininity. But please don't think that your parenting is going to be changed by reading this book.
I received a copy of the book: Secure Daughters Confident Sons by Glenn T. Stanton from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group for review.