I have spent some time this week reading Joshua Harris' book, Stop Dating the Church (It has recently been republished under the name, Why Church Matters). It is a very interesting book with a very interesting concept. Are you a church dater? How does he describe that?
"Can you spot what I'm calling a church-dater? Here's a quick profile. Do you see one or more of these characteristics in yourself?
First, our attitude toward church tends to be me-centered. We go for what we can get--social interaction, programs, or activities. The driving question is, 'What can church do for me?'
A second sign of a church-dater is being independent. We go to church because that's what Christians are supposed to do--but we're careful to avoid getting involved too much, especially with people. We don't pay much attention to God's larger purpose for us as a vital part in a specific church family. So we go through the motions without really investing ourselves.
Most essentially, a church-dater tends to be critical. We are short on allegiance and quick to find fault in our church. We treat church with a consumer mentality--looking for the best product for the price of our Sunday morning. As a result, we're fickle and not invested for the long-term, like a lover with a wandering eye, always on the hunt for something better." (16-7)
What do you think of that description?